The Dating Trend That’s Worst Than Ghosting
If you have ever had someone vanished mid conversation from your life only to pop back into your Dms… After weeks or months later , acting like nothing happened that is- “submarining”.
“If ghosting left you feeling confused , this might just leave you spinning.”
The most recent toxic trend making waves in the dating scene is Submarining.
What Is Submarining
You must have seen submarine : it dips below the surface… disappears from the view, and then randomly resurfaced without warning. That’s exactly what’s happening in the dating world . It’s confusing , unsettling , and worst of all , It’s becoming too common.”
- Submarining happens when someone stops replying, ghosts you entirely and then shows up out of the blue .
No explanation, No apology , just a ” Hey , How have you been ?
Why Do People Submarine
They often crave attention or validation . They are avoidant or emotionally unavailable and Want to leave the door open without commitment. They think they can ‘ comeback without consequences.
How It Messes With Your Head
Firstly you need to understand ” it’s not about you . It’s about them.” When someone resurfaces after vanishing it can stir up : False hope , Old feelings , Self-doubt and Anger followed by guilt for being angry.
What You Can Do
Here’s how to protect your heart :
- First understand, it’s an emotional whiplash and you don’t deserve it .
- Take a Pause – You don’t owe them a reply “. Take your time .
- Set a boundary understanding you are allowed to say no to reconnecting.
- Call it out – Hey , I was surprised to hear from you after all this time . What made you reach out ?
- Watch their actions – Anyone serious will own up to their absence.
Submerining is not flattering. It’s not romantic. And it’s definitely not your responsibility to fix. You deserve consistentency , respect and clear communication.